5 Ways to build a resilient mindset
When you change the way you look at things the things you look at change - Dr. Wayne Dyer
Having a resilient mindset is not an easy task and for many, too many broken dreams, disappointment and rejections have slowly chipped away at the self-worth and resulted in a defeat mindset. In my work as a coach I have found that the resilient mindset also known as the the winner’s mindset is mostly about attitude and beliefs, and can be cultivated through a number of ways.
So how often do you say I can’t do this or that? You’ve probably heard before that what you speak out loud, time and time again becomes your belief and as such your attitude towards things. As Henry Ford once said if you think you can or cannot, either way you are right so here are 5 practices to help build a resilient mindset.
If you think you can or cannot, either way you are right. - Henry Ford
Don't take things too personally.
Taking things too personally results in a victim mentality where things feel as if everyone is against you or there is something wrong with you as a person. If you are rejected for a position or in a relationship acknowledge your feelings when it happens and then move on. Yes it is not always that easy so be kind to you and just as you would advise a dear one, kindly do that for you. Another thought is to choose to see it as not the right fit for you and there is nothing wrong with you but that something better will happen instead.
Remove the word I can’t, I am not and I lack, from your vocabulary.
Whatever the challenge if you are willing to learn or tackle it you are bound to find help somewhere and especially online so before you go on to say any of these make sure you have at least tried your hand at it and not been able to achieve the desired goal.
Someone’s perception of you has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them.
It is true the people are mirrors so the next time someone makes you feel bad remember you’re mirroring to them what they dislike about themselves and nothing to actually do with you.
Ask yourself is this goal and dream that I want going to make me happy, is it going to help others and is it going to make the world a better place when I achieve it?
These are questions you can ask when the doubts kick in and if you are able to answer “Yes” to them all then trust your yourself and the journey and keep on moving because the great win is a result of all the smaller actions.
Know that this too shall pass. Definitely!
No matter how hard or bad the situation looks now, know that whatever it is it will surely pass. Yes it’s taking time but it will pass so hold on a little longer now.
These practices have helped me through some tough times and if they help you in anyway or if you are not sure how to tackle any of them leave a comment and let me know.
Journal Prompt:
What does rejection mean to me and how do I handle it?