Self Respect, Self Acceptance and Self Love the Greatest Motivation
When Quitting Isn't an Option
How much importance do you place on the saying - everything happens for a reason?
“Arghh I’m so tired, I can’t do this anymore” I said in exasperation when the third try at finding a product for another business failed. Maybe this isn’t meant to be or maybe I am not meant to have this, these were thoughts running through my mind and the choice to give up was very appealing at this moment. Then discussions with my sister and mum one day put somethings into perspective. All along I was looking at this opportunity form just one angle and not wanting to see what other doors this might open. This made me focus my energy on pursuing one specific direction but the near misses and almost made it though, were becoming too old. I kept trying different things in the name of creating something for myself but I was not seeing any results not because these ventures were not good but because I didn’t stick with them long enough to reap the rewards of my effort. So I kept working and trying to find other opportunities because in my head there was one thing I knew for sure and that was not quitting on me and my dreams.
So why wasn’t the tide turning in my favour still? I realised that I was not prioritising my dreams and goals for I will put in half the time, put it on hold to help others, I will put in extra hours for my corporate job also on the weekends and so on. Why was I prioritising everything and everybody else above me? It came down to this lack of self respect for myself period.
I made a promise to myself after the numerous conversations with my sister to stop talking and start acting. I also vowed to keep any promise I make to myself as an act of self love and self respect because if I couldn’t keep a promise to me then how could I expect others to do the same. This included sticking to a plan till all avenues were exhausted or being consistent in my action taking and whatever I’d wholeheartedly do for another person if I had the choice to do it for me, to go all in as well. So when I found myself not succeeding at the various attempts I resorted to it all happens for a reason rather than quitting, this was the mantra that kept me going time after time. I know that n the thick of whatever we are going through this is the last statement we like to hear but I have come to learn it is so true in our journey of life. When things do not go to plan rather throwing in the towel use this mantra and I find the good in what has happened and another approach. Even when I say it to make myself feel better it still holds. This mindset has not only helped me build resilience but also helped me be consistent on a number of goals and the greatest motivator is keeping my promise to me.
The greatest motivator
Learning to appreciate and respect myself as the person I am and where I am in life has been a life changer. I got into transformational coaching not because I wanted to dish out advice but genuinely because I believe in helping people especially ladies transforming their lives through self worth, self acceptance and confidence with my story. I struggled a good deal of my life with these and when I found these to be the actual issues to my challenges, working on them became my priority. Like an onion I worked gradually peeling off these layers till I got to a place where I had built a good dose of self confidence and love to respect my values, demand more from life and set healthy boundaries. For me this work was and is so important that quitting wasn’t an option because I was tired of feeling like the victim. I knew I had and have so much to live for and to give the world. It wasn’t easy and there have been many times I have cried, been angry and felt afraid going through the healing and even encountering triggers when I thought I had healed from something, but I have kept that promise to me that no matter what I won’t quit on myself in my healing, my goal achievement and my life’s purpose.
What is your greatest motivator?
You may not have the same experiences as me and I pay so for you too, but I know you might have had challenges with something that’s keeping you from being who you truly are or keeping your promises to yourself. I know that the root cause of this is our lack of self respect, this is what keeps us from being consistent with goals and showing up for ourselves. So what is your motivating story to not give up one you? We all have stories and I believe in the uniqueness of each and everyone of us. These stories however traumatic they are, hold lessons that have moulded and built our characters, and that have also thought us what we do not appreciate. I deeply believe in not disregarding our experiences, stories and knowhow though we sometimes undervalue, underplay and under-acknowledge these, they tend to be messages for a change.
Respecting and accepting yourself allows you to move even when you don’t feel like it. Every action taken today to get to our desired destination counts and though this might not be apparent today there is a reason for whatever is happening now. Making up your mind that quitting on yourself isn’t an option and that you will use your pain, hurt and frustrations as fuel for something better already sets you apart from many. I don’t know what is going on for you now but I know you will overcome this and how you do this will be is as important as getting to your destination because this might just be the motivation for someone hearing your story.
I may be saying the same thing countless of coaches, mentors and teachers have said but if I am or they are not your “vessel” as I call it, this message will be lost. Today I remind you to let your respect, love and appreciation for your worth and self be the thing that keeps you going no matter what. Don’t give up, not on yourself, your plans or your desires. You and I have been blessed with another day and how we show up today matters so for me quitting is not an option not in anyway.
Journal Prompt: What part of my story so far, can I use as a motivator to keep going?